The heartbreak of holidays

Those of us who have losses in our recent memory or even further back, feel mixed emotions begin to surface as the big holiday season rolls around. As soon as Halloween is past we flip a page on the calendar and thoughts turn to planning Thanksgiving and then there’s Christmas and New Year’s all in rapid succession with hardly time to breathe.

Perhaps you have a large family who is in the habit of getting together for each of these holidays. Maybe you live close and make the rounds from house to house. Maybe you have generations of blended families which can make for many meals leaving you stuffed to the gills. Many folks travel, spending hours at airports and in crowded flights ~ each making their way to some place called home.

Maybe you are the one expected to make all the special dishes craved and expected during the season of holidays. Year after year, we do it out of love. But after we lose a beloved someone who no longer comes through the door, drops a suitcase in favor of a huge hug saying, “Hi Mom. I’ve missed you.” Is it ever the same?

No. It is never the same . . . ever again.

I could stop here. Nothing left but to grab a tissue . . .

Somehow, life goes on and on without the ones we carry in our hearts. There are other smiling faces at the table and we love them too, but it is hard to not miss the one (s) who are absent. Holidays are special because it gives us a chance to catch up with the ones we love, especially if it is the only time we get to spend time with them. Time is precious and it goes by quickly when we have a holiday season filled with fragrant foods, laughter, sharing stories of past snowball fights and making more memories to add to our collection.

Perhaps I make it sound easy. But it is anything but. For moms especially, our hands are deep in flour while our hearts are heavy. The sounds of Christmas may fill the house, but your heart is not singing. I get it. I live it. I know the loneliness too. When the flurry of holidays start before Thanksgiving, it begins to drag by the time Christmas is here. Heavy hearts just want to get the dates behind us and face yet another year.

If I have not turned you off completely and you are still reading, let’s leave this post on a note of hope. We serve a risen Savior who came as a babe in a manger. He lived a life of service to His heavenly Dad and to show this tiny planet what the God of heaven is really like and to break the power of sin at the cross! We aren’t stuck on “spin cycle” forever. There will come a time, perhaps sooner than later, when we no longer have get-togethers during the holiday season, but we are basking in the wonders of heaven never to say “goodbye” again to those we love. And that includes the ones we miss so much. No more pain, sorrow, loneliness, or sin . . . EVER!

eat as much as you can

Let’s focus on Christ. He will put the holidays in perspective.

Now when these things begin to occur, look up and lift up your heads, because your redemption(deliverance) is drawing near.  Luke 21:28


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